Before Starting to Find the Prostate
Use the bathroom even if you don’t have to go and make sure to wipe thoroughly afterwards. Wash in and around your backdoor with soap and warm water until you’re feeling squeaky clean.
Make sure you’re turned on – either by watching your favorite adult movie or by engaging in foreplay or oral sex with your partner. Arousal makes it much easier to find your prostate. Once you’re ready to go, get in a comfortable and relaxed position that allows you to easily access your backdoor.
Apply a generous amount of anal sex lube to your backdoor and your finger or your partner’s finger. When it comes to anal play, there’s no such thing as too much lube! Rub the lube around your backdoor to make sure you’re fully coated – the last thing you need is a dry patch make finding the prostate even harder.
While rubbing the lube around, start pressing gently around the backdoor while working your way steadily inward. This relaxes your anal sphincter, which makes it much easier to find the prostate. Once you’re ready, take a deep breath and slowly insert your finger. If it doesn’t feel good or you become uncomfortable, there’s nothing wrong with stopping. Your prostate can wait until you’re ready to go all the way.
The prostate’s located about two inches inside your backdoor. Once your finger’s deep enough, curl it slightly upward with the fingertip pointing toward your belly like you’re making a “come over here” gesture. Then start gently exploring. The prostate feels like a walnut-shaped bump toward the belly. You’ll know you’ve found the prostate when your body starts tingling.
Gently stroke your fingertip up, down and all over the prostate while trying to find what form of prostate stimulation works best for you. Some men can orgasm from prostate stimulation alone, but most guys typically combine prostate and penile stimulation for the best possible orgasm.
Congratulations on being one of the few men brave enough to find the prostate.
Finding the Prostate
If you want to stimulate his prostate, then you’ve got to know where it is. The prostate presses against his rectum, so the best way to reach it is through his backdoor. Start by adding a lot of lube to your finger and your partner’s rear. Then curl your finger into a small hook. Insert it about two inches deep with the tip pointing down. Gently move the tip around in a small circle. You’ll know you’ve found it when your guy starts moaning!
Advanced Prostate Play