The Prostate

Before Starting to Find the Prostate

Clean Up.
Use the bathroom even if you don’t have to go and make sure to wipe thoroughly afterwards. Wash in and around your backdoor with soap and warm water until you’re feeling squeaky clean.

Warm Up.
Make sure you’re turned on – either by watching your favorite adult movie or by engaging in foreplay or oral sex with your partner. Arousal makes it much easier to find your prostate. Once you’re ready to go, get in a comfortable and relaxed position that allows you to easily access your backdoor.

 Lube Up.

Apply a generous amount of anal sex lube to your backdoor and your finger or your partner’s finger. When it comes to anal play, there’s no such thing as too much lube! Rub the lube around your backdoor to make sure you’re fully coated – the last thing you need is a dry patch make finding the prostate even harder.

While rubbing the lube around, start pressing gently around the backdoor while working your way steadily inward. This relaxes your anal sphincter, which makes it much easier to find the prostate. Once you’re ready, take a deep breath and slowly insert your finger. If it doesn’t feel good or you become uncomfortable, there’s nothing wrong with stopping. Your prostate can wait until you’re ready to go all the way.

The prostate’s located about two inches inside your backdoor. Once your finger’s deep enough, curl it slightly upward with the fingertip pointing toward your belly like you’re making a “come over here” gesture. Then start gently exploring. The prostate feels like a walnut-shaped bump toward the belly. You’ll know you’ve found the prostate when your body starts tingling.

Gently stroke your fingertip up, down and all over the prostate while trying to find what form of prostate stimulation works best for you. Some men can orgasm from prostate stimulation alone, but most guys typically combine prostate and penile stimulation for the best possible orgasm.

Congratulations on being one of the few men brave enough to find the prostate.

Finding the Prostate


If you want to stimulate his prostate, then you’ve got to know where it is. The prostate presses against his rectum, so the best way to reach it is through his backdoor. Start by adding a lot of lube to your finger and your partner’s rear. Then curl your finger into a small hook. Insert it about two inches deep with the tip pointing down. Gently move the tip around in a small circle. You’ll know you’ve found it when your guy starts moaning!

 Finger Play

When you’re just getting started with prostate play, it’s best to stick with just a finger or two to give your guy time to adjust. Once you’ve found the prostate, you can experiment with different forms of stimulation. You could massage it with your fingers or gently knock on it to see what your guy likes best. Try incorporating a little prostate fun into your bedroom routine. Imagine the look on your guy’s face if you slip a finger up there while giving him head. Just be careful where he’s aiming – the shock might set him off and you don’t want to get an eyeful!

 Prostate Toys

When you’re ready to move on from fingers? We offer a wide range of prostate toys. These toys are ergonomically shaped for a comfortable fit while making his prostate easy to find and even easier to please. More advanced users should try a prostate vibrator too. T he extra stimulation will leave your guy erupting extra hard!

 Advanced Prostate Play

If your guy's open minded and really into prostate play, you might want to try role reversal or pegging. This involves you slipping on a special harness that allows you to wear and use a dildo like a real penis. You can give your man a taste of his own medicine while teasing his prostate at the same time!